A list of must-haves in my man - Need 100% Grade to pass.

1.Don't bump me on my head with a club. I do not like that at all: Sensitivity. The most important thing I would seek in my man, or from any human being for that matter is sensitivity. While I belive that each one of us is sensitive to ourselves, it is being sensitive to other people and their feelings that matters more. I feel aghast whenever I hear insensitive comments coming from oh-so-sensitive people who would wilt if a drop of water were to fall on them but have no qualms about squishing other people's feelings beneath their feet. So please put that club away my man, especially when I am around!

2. Color me Red: Passion. You could as well be dead without it. Passion for what you might ask? Well it could be anything. Music, Travelling, Partying, Movies, Books, Friends, Conversations, Art, Family, Hobbies, For me - anything. As long as there is a passion within a person, I can relate to that person. Passionless existence turns me off big time. Maybe it is very wrong of me but I'd be like - so what is it that you live for? So come with with me my love and let's play with the color red!

3. This features on almost every list and mine too : Sense of Humor. Once I read something that went like if that man can make you laugh - then marry him. Don't look for anything else.  While I would not say that sense of humor is the only thing, I would definitely say its a top rated quality. One that is justified in appearing in every list possible. Though one important thing to watch out for is whether your sense of humor and the person's in question [the perfect lover ;-)] should match. If your idea of sense of humor is quite different from his' then you are doomed. Other than that if he can make me smile, nay, laugh, through my blues then add one more to the score!

4. Dil bole boom-boom: Physical Attraction. Well, well, well I would say I am talking about love and making love here. For me a relationship is doomed if one is not physically attracted to the other. I mean it is wonderful if you connect emotionally, can speak with your eyes and all that stuff but if you can't make each others' heart go boom-boom then you are definitely not doing something right. And that one would be a great put-downer - a person who cannot do it right. Sexual compatibility adds so much more to a relationship and I entirely disagree with the hypothesis that it fades after a while. Well then please don't let it fade. I would much rather be dead [ok I exaggerate a little] then be with a person who cannot make me desire him just by a look or a touch. A lot of factors go in making that happen. Looks, grooming, confidence, sense of dress, the kind of shape you are in, the kind of err..moves you can make coupled with love ofcourse...whoa! whatta combination!!

5. Common interests. I would love it if my man shares, some, if not all common interests with me. It would be a major turn-off for me if the man is not into any kind of sport. If he is into cricket, so much the better, but somehow a man with no interest in any kind of sport, whether in following it or playing it somehow gets a -1 in my list. I should be able to come home and say - Dhoni ne kya dhulaai ki without him going is Dhoni a Dhobi by any chance? Now that would be a major turn-off. Other than sports, I would like us to enjoy a Jajgit Singh ghazal as much as we would enjoy watching Seinfield. A man who could enjoy a serious film just as much as he would laugh at There is Something about Mary!

6. Hey! you..dont' you dare run away: Courage. Courage to stand up to oneself and courage to do the right thing. I cannot stand mousy men who would much rather distance themselves from any kind of disturbance and be left in peace rather than taking up cudgels - who cannot face confrontation of any kind. I am all for not creating unpleasant situations and trying to stay away from them but if you are dragged into one such situation then you better have the courage to stand up for yourself. A little bit of aggression when it is needed is a very good thing in my book. Not foolish aggression mind you, but one in which you do not take crap from anyone and everyone but give them back in the same coin. I would hate it if my man went - chalo nikalte hain yahaan se when confronted with unpleasantness. Thoda muscles flex karo, when the need arises!!

7.Treat me well..treat me special : A romantic. Not your chocolate-roses-valentine's day romance mind you but more of the practical kind. Like wanting to spend time with me, doing small things like taking out the trash, bringing in the groceries without having to nag, saying something special - even something as corny as you are not just my wife, but my life ;-), staying up talking all night long, going out on an impromptu long drive..sigh...that is the stuff dreams, nay, real life is made up of. The I-am-here-for-you-no-matter-what-and-I-love-being-there kind of person!

8.I would list all other qualities as number 8. All that go without saying. Compassion, respect, understanding, support..blah blah.

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